I’m on the fence about this one. On the one hand I think PUA training is one of those things that can help. On the other hand I really don’t know. I haven’t gone through any myself but I’ve met a few of these guys.

Things to consider:

• Why do you need training?
• Can you motivate yourself to pick up on your own?
• Are you improvement oriented – can you use SpeedEv to get in gear?
• What is the specific coach you’re thinking about training with offering that’s particularly useful to you?

You’ll notice I didn’t include price in there because it’s irrelevant. If you’re going to get training then get training and get the best training out there for you. That doesn’t necessarily mean the highest priced training but rather the specific training that’s best suited to your particular situation.

But the rest of the points are very relevant.

Don’t rush into training because you think you should. Figure out WHY you think you should FIRST. Otherwise there’s a good chance you end up spending an arm and a leg and scratching your head afterward wondering why exactly you did that.

If you can motivate yourself on your own to get out there regularly and make it a ROUTINE to meet women you don’t need PUA training. If you can’t then you probably do but try and see if you can get out there on your own first.

If you’re improvement oriented and you can use SpeedEv on your own to rapidly adjust and iterate you probably don’t need a coach. Someone more knowledgeable and experienced than you might be able to point out specific improvements you can make that’ll speed up your learning curve but if you’re improvement oriented you’d probably figure them out on your own anyway.

Finally why are you choosing the coach you’re choosing? A few of these guys I’ve met say the same lines to every girl they meet. That’s okay if it’s a joke or two but not if it’s your entire conversation. Conversations aren’t one size fits all; a conversation that knocks the socks off one chick is going to put another one to sleep. Steer clear of those jokers.

I’ll say this: if you’re confused about where to begin and you need a kick in the ass and to get pointed in the right direction a session with one of these guys (if he’s GOOD) might help. But you should probably get out there on your own FIRST and see how far you can take it without seeking help. You might surprise yourself.

~Bret

Learning how to pick up a girl is about more than learning to pick up. The nuts and bolts only take you so far.

It’s ALSO about LOCATION.

One of my favorite places to meet girls is in the hotel bars of a hotel I’m staying at. You don’t always strike gold but when you do, man it’s gratifying. It’s so easy. You ask them to come up and see your Jacuzzi or the view from your room and it’s a wrap.

Contrast that to meeting a girl at a hotel bar in a hotel you don’t have a room at and can’t GET a room because it’s fully booked because of that conference they’re throwing on science and religion down the hall. Unless it’s on like a light switch pointing at the ceiling it probably ain’t happening partner.

Location location location. Make no bones about it it’s dead important.

You can’t pick up a girl if you don’t have anywhere to take her. She could think you’re the sexiest man alive but if you don’t have a bed or a dark alcove somewhere or at least a bathroom or a closet you’re SOL. Next contestant, and you don’t even get a consolation prize. Okay maybe a phone number with 50/50 odds she ever answers it.

I’ve lived in cities all my life so I can only imagine what it’s like to be out in the country. Pros: all the locations you could ever ask for – barns, fields, that shadowy spot behind the big old tree or Farmer John’s haystack. Cons: there’s probably only one attractive woman within 4 miles of the locations you want to bring her to and she’s dating Big Mike the auto repairman. So I’m using the country as a prime example of somewhere location is NOT in your favor.

Here’s what’s important for location then:

1. Enough attractive women to choose from that you won’t run out
2. Somewhere nearby to take those women to once they decide you’re the one

You can band-aid over a lot of problems with your skills as a pick up artist by simply finding good locations and using location to the best of your ability. I figured out location when I was 19 and let me tell you I was as happy as a bullfrog in a lazy creek. The first time I used it right was with a girl I met just outside of the hotel I was staying at down in Cabo for spring break. I literally walked downstairs, ran into a hard-bodied blonde from Minnesota who didn’t want to go wakeboarding when all her friends did, talked to this girl for all of 6 minutes, then told her to come upstairs with me and have a few beers and look out over all the other people laying out on the beach. She said yes, we had incredible sex for a couple of hours (until her friends came back and started calling her name outside) and I converted firmly into the location camp for life.

If you want to be a pick up artist you need to get location on your side. Not doing that is like trying to make it in the army with just a throwing knife, some flares and a roll of duct tape. You can probably survive for a while but you’re going to do a heck of a lot better if you bring a rifle along. Location’s your rifle. Don’t leave home without it.

~Bret

Now to my theory of SpeedEv.

I honestly think it’s possible for ANY guy to get good at pick up IF he improves fast.

I think most guys don’t.

I think most guys do the same thing over and over again and keep hoping to “get lucky.” I think this is the very apex of idiocy in the modern dating world.

Think about it. If you wanted to learn golf and you swung and hit the ball and it went 10 feet, would you then say “Gosh I guess I’m going to have to do that another 10000 times until I get it down okay.” No way! You’d say “That was was terrible and I’m going to have to try out some different swings and different angles and different clubs and eventually I’ll figure out the right way to hit the ball 100 feet instead of 10 feet.”

That’s SpeedEv. That’s sitting down and evolving FAST instead of plinking away hoping to somehow gradually figure something out. Horse crap.

The place this is the most important is in the basics of pick up. You really don’t know what you don’t know until you start working on this area. “Posture, really? Girls care about that?”

Yes. Yes they do. They care about it a LOT. So much so that the difference between a guy with good posture and a guy with crappy posture is like the difference between a guy with a sexy 5 o’clock shadow and a guy with a handlebar mustache. I’ll let you think that one over.

Tell you a story. I once got a really good promotion that meant an awesome title in my company and a lot more pay. I was really excited. And I thought what better way to pick up some new girls than by telling them about it. So I did. I told them about it a lot. I told them about my new title and my big pay raise. And do you want to guess what happened?

They hated it. They started treating me like a tool. I had better luck when I didn’t talk about my job at all.

So I cut it out. That’s SpeedEv. Try something new, if it works, keep it. If it doesn’t work, discard it. Keep trying new things, keep changing things. Find out what works, use it, find out what doesn’t work, get rid of it.

Do this and you pile on results FAST. It’s a little bit at a time but Dear Lord it’s effective. All those other guys out there are standing still while you’re climbing up a mountain of success.

They do this in programming. A programmer gets out a piece of software and tests it in the wild. It doesn’t work right, it’s buggy, it has problems. So he refines it and gets it out there again. It’s better but still not working quite right. So he makes a few more changes. Whoops now it’s worse. Nix those changes, try something else. All right now it’s working better. And on and on.

And what’s the final product look like? Perfection. If you treat your SELF like this with regard to WOMEN then you’ll ALSO reach perfection… with enough iterations.

But nobody does this.

Don’t ask me why, I don’t have the answers. All I know is if you start using SpeedEv and applying it to yourself you’re going to start getting some pretty surprising success with women pretty fast.

Wait, you don’t know where to get started? All right I told you I don’t like details but I’ll help you out here:

• The way you move
• The way you look at women
• The way you position your body
• The way you talk to women
• The things you say to women
• How you say those things
• How much humor you use or don’t use
• The kind of humor you use when you use it
• How many stories you tell and what they’re about
• How much you touch women and where you touch them
• How aggressive you are about meeting new women
• How aggressive you are about getting girls to go places with you
• Whether you go for phone numbers, emails or pick up girls to go home with you
• Whether you take the lead and tell women what to do or you hang back and let them take charge

The list goes on and on and on. There’s so much different stuff you can play with and toss around.

Point is get yourself evolving FAST. If you do that you’ll have more women than you know what to do with. And if that happens give me a call and I’ll come help you out.

~Bret

First off I want to recommend a great resource on how to be a pick up artist. I’ve seen a lot of dreck out there but that book really hammers it home. I’m not in 100% total agreement with everything in there and it’s a little too fine-toothed a comb for me at times but it’s pretty close.

Second off let me go a little deeper into things now than I did in “Learning to Pick Up.” Because there’s a lot to cover here but at the same time if I get too technical my head’s going to explode.

You wanna be a pick up artist? Let me ask you WHY. Is it because:

• You think it’d be really cool?
• You need a club to join?
• You want to meet other pick up artists?
• You want your friends to be jealous?
• You want your ex to be jealous?
• Your parents don’t like it?

If you said “yes” to any of those you’re going to need to rethink your reasons because I’ll tell you straight up you won’t make it.

Mean of me to say that? No way, I’m helping you out here man. You’re only going to waste your time and that of a bunch of unsuspecting women if you’re trying to pick them up for those reasons.

Why say that? Because you will do it half-assed.

That’s right, I said you’re going to do a terrible job if you’re trying to get girls to impress your friends or piss off your ex. That’s because you don’t actually want it if those are your reasons. You want the APPEARANCE of it – not the thing in and of itself.

And the thing in and of itself is hot, lusty women naked in your bed with you naked with them.

Who doesn’t want that? You’d be surprised. What if I told you I was going to give you a MAGIC SECRET that would let you walk outside wherever you are and pick up a beautiful girl to take home RIGHT NOW… you’d just have to put a few hours into doing it first.

Are you gonna do it?

Well, are you?

Yeah didn’t think so. You don’t want it enough.

And let me tell you friend, you will struggle FOREVER until you want it enough. Because becoming a pick up artist is not about learning the right lines or techniques or gambits or tricks. It’s about wanting it enough and then just going and doing it.

Execution. That’s the one word that describes the difference between the guys who sleep with 100s or 1000s of women and the guys who sleep with 2. You think the guy who sleeps with 2 women is out there day and night, hungry for girls to sex, and just keeps striking out because he’s unlucky? You’re wrong if you do. The guy with 2 notches on his bedpost doesn’t even step up to plate. Or when on occasion he does he doesn’t swing, he just lets the ball go sailing past.

There’s only one reason that works if you want to learn how to be a pick up artist:

• You want to sleep with a lot of beautiful women!

That’s it. And by “want” I mean you’re going crazy during the day time tearing your hair out at work because you can’t wait to get out there and go find more beautiful girls to sex up. If that’s not you trust me, there’s only so far you can will yourself to success.

You gotta WANT it. Make yourself want it if you don’t right now. That’s how you get good.

~Bret

When I was 16 years old, I went to stay for 2 weeks in Japan. It was an eye opening experience – an amazing new culture and I slept with 3 girls on that trip. I’d broken up with my first girlfriend before going on the trip and it’d been heartwrenching at the time. Imagine my surprise when I got there and discovered how easy it was to learn to pick up.

I naturally had the basics of pick up down already at that point. I just knew the right things to do. I wasn’t the most popular kid in school but I was close. The girls all liked me. I had their numbers, both metaphorically and literally.

Learning to pick up was wild. I was a little hesitant but I knew what I wanted. There were all these cute young girls in sexy clothes walking around and I couldn’t really help myself. “Wow, you’re beautiful,” I said to the first girl I ran into, and she gave me this cute look and giggled and right away I knew I’d found a calling.

I realized that learning to pick up wasn’t going to be hard so long as I remembered two things:

1. Always say what’s on your mind, and
2. Jump into action

Doing just those two things got me 3 cuties in the sack in 2 weeks and there was no stopping me after that. I slept with half the cheerleading squad over the next year when I got back home. I was the guy the girls all whispered that they hated but secretly couldn’t stop thinking about (or getting it from).

What’s the importance of those 2 things you ask?

Think about it like this: if you say what’s on your mind you’ll never end up in that place where there’s an awkward silence or she’s wondering if you like her or not. Holding back and trying to protect your thoughts is probably my #1 theory of what kills guys the most with girls. Tell her what’s on your mind and watch how she turns into silly putty all over your hands.

And if you’re constantly jumping into action you’ll never end up in that bad place where you’re walking around telling yourself you wished you’d start picking up girls at some point. Because instead of wishing that… you’re DOING it!

~Bret

As with any good story it’s important to start at the beginning.

You don’t learn to pick up by walking out of your house one day and saying “from now on I’m going to get whatever woman I want.” Maybe that’s how you get started on the road to getting there but that isn’t what does it.

You have to understand that this isn’t some easy trick or gambit. It’s not learn this line and do this thing and women are going to fall all over themselves to climb into their bed. You can’t and they won’t. It’s more than that.

Becoming a pick up artist is about learning the basics. What are the basics? I’ll start you out with a few:

• Look good. There’s a lot of people out there who will tell you looks don’t matter. That’s baloney. Looks matter a LOT. That doesn’t mean you’re up a creek if you weren’t born looking like Prince Charming. But it DOES mean if your idea of fashion is wearing what’s comfortable and your idea of a stylish haircut is whatever the artists at SuperCuts are willing to provide for $13, you need a serious upgrade. Get your looks in order for a BIG step up in how women treat you.

• Smile. Sound silly? You wouldn’t believe how many guys I’ve seen walk up to women looking like they’re about to deliver the news that the poor girl’s dog got hit by a car. Stop doing that. Picking up girls is a lot of fun – don’t make it a chore for her. Or else she won’t come when you ask her somewhere later.

• Talk loud. If you’re shy or quiet or mousy or geeky or nerdy or your voice sucks or anything else at all whatsoever, you can go a long way to fixing it by TALKING LOUD. I’m not joking. Scientists found that the louder a man talks the more likely women are to leave a bar or party with him at the end of the night. If that doesn’t make you go buy a megaphone to take with you when you go pick up I don’t know what will.

• Talk slow. Because annoying people talk fast. And you don’t want to be annoying women do you?

• Let her talk… about her. I know I know, you’re dying to tell her how amazing you are and you’re certain she won’t be able to stop herself from positively leaping down your pants after that. Right? Resist the urge to be like every other guy she’s ever met ever telling her all the pseudo amazing things about yourself that aren’t really all that amazing (oh you rock climb? So did 3 other men who approached her this week). Get her talking about herself and the battle’s won before it even started.

Take those basics and run with them. Everything else you can figure out on your own if you get the basics of picking up women down.

Think I’m kidding? I’m not. Stop trying to make her laugh by doing that idiot thing with the ice cubes and your pinkie finger. Start doing the stuff above to make her panties wet instead.

~Bret

Hello and welcome, I’m Bret Telbor.

I’ve spent most of my life traveling the world, a connoisseur of adventure and intrigue. It’s my experiences with women I’m writing about here today… the things I’ve done to them and the things they’ve done to me. This is my guide on becoming a pick up artist.

I’m a believer in speed evolution (or SpeedEv – the name of this site) – figuring things out fast and adapting on the fly. If you’ve been around the block more than a few times, that’s okay – I think you’ll find some things to interest you or nod your head at in remembrance of your own dalliances and illicit affairs. And if you’re none too experienced yet with the fairer sex, that’s all right too – this site will provide a light in the darkness to lead you out of the tunnel of confusion and misinformation you’ve been in before.

So sit back, relax, and enjoy my tales of my own affairs and apply the lessons to your own if you so care to do. I’m writing this as much for your enjoyment as I am for my own, and I’ll always do my best to make things as clear and instructional as they possibly can be in the meantime too.

~Bret